26TH/27TH OF DECEMBER – REPRESENTING March & Forgiveness
WELCOME TO YOUR Third WILD NIGHT
What a beautiful topic “Forgiveness” can be. It is just as freeing as “Letting Go”. No wonder, that one of the 12 steps of the Alcoholics Anonymous is to ask for forgiveness from others. However, I believe that the more important aspect regarding Forgiveness, is to forgive from within you, without needing external inputs. But before we dive into “Forgiveness”, if you haven’t done so already, read about the things you can do during every one of the wild nights:
THE DAILY PRACTICE
(You can SKIP this IF YOU READ Any of the previous WILD NIGHTs)
As the overall theme of the wild nights is connected to the more subtle energies in life, that is what we will be focusing on. Each day will have one particular theme, however ALL wild nights will have a few things in common.
DURING EACH OF THE WILD NIGHTS YOU CAN:
- Wishes: Pick one of your 13 wishes at random (without looking at it) and burn it. DO NOT burn all 13 wishes. One wish should be left over for the 6th of January.
- Dreams: Write into your dream journal as soon as you wake up in the morning (starting on the 25th of December). Your dreams can give you a rough idea of what might be in store for you next year, however be very mindful of how you interpret your dreams. It might simply be that you are working through the happenings of your day, so take your dreams with a grain of salt. If you feel they do represent your upcoming year, try to dig deeper with the I-Ching, your Oracle cards, a pendulum, meditation or whatever else you feel called to use to connect with your inner guidance.
- Predictions: Each of the nights/days represent one of the months of next year. You can use your oracle deck, the I-Ching or any other tool you enjoy using to connect with your intuition, to find out what the overall theme of the month of January will be.
- Journaling: You can use your diary/journal to write down what your oracle cards, the I-Ching etc. has revealed about the month of January and you can also use it in the evening, to reflect on the happenings of your day. All of these aspects can give you clues for next year.
- Smudging: Smudge your home with Sage, Palo Santo, incense sticks or whatever you feel called to use. The smoke is believed to expel negative energies, so leave your windows open for a little bit after smudging, so that those energies can leave your home.
Always remember do do what feels right to you. None of these things will help you in any way, if you just do it for the sake of doing it. Instead, even if you only do ONE of these things, but you do it with your heart and soul, that when you will see results. Now, let’s take a look at the main topic for today.
I would love to give you an easy way to forgive yourself and others, but the truth is: It is a long and windy road, most of the time. I might be of this opinion, because I believe that true, lasting forgiveness, comes from deep within oneself. It actually comes automatically, once you start to take care of your well-being on all levels. The more you care for your own health and happiness, the more you fall in love with yourself – And when that happens, forgiveness is a given. Why? Because the moment you fall in love with yourself, you don’t rely on anyone outside of yourself to give you love or happiness. This doesn’t mean that you don’t enjoy external stimuli, but it means you are not depending on anyone or anything to feel happy or loved.
As a first step to conquer forgiveness, I would suggest woking on it from a “mind” aspect. Specifically “Perspective”. Yes, forgiveness is a matter of the heart, but often we need to address mental blockages, created during our upbringing, first. These mental blockages include cultural/social beliefs, which are essentially perspectives that we might need to adjust. That is why “reframing” your thoughts would be extremely helpful to get one step closer to forgiveness, while simultaneously also improving your well-being routines. Here is some food for your thoughts on how to change your perspective on the topic of “forgiveness”, “freedom” and “responsibility”
1. Reframing & Perspective
Changing your perspective, can be as simple as deciding to take matters into your own hands. Instead of asking for someone to do something before you can forgive them, try understanding what it is you can do to release yourself. There are two videos I would like to share with you today, which I found to be extremely helpful regarding “forgiveness”. There are several impactful videos of Sadhguru, in which he explains the meaning of freedom and responsibility. The main take from all of them is, that in order to truly be free, you need to take responsibility:
Response – Ability
Responsability means being able to respond to the best of your ability, to whatever situation you may face in your life.Sadhguru
I understand that there are a lot of things someone can do, which seem unforgivable. But when encountering such things, my mind automatically wanders to one of two people: Natascha Kampusch (I highly recommend watching her interviews) and Mary Johnson (see video below). Both of these women showed an unbelievable amount of strength in forgiving men who had done seemingly unforgivable things.
As you can hear at the end of the video, forgiveness is not something you do for anyone else. You do it to free yourself. If you keep holding on to the anger, frustration, hurt, disappointment or any other negative emotion you might feel for someone, you are the one suffering. You are essentially drinking your own poison and waiting for the other person to die.
Journaling is another powerful way to understand where your blockages might stem from and get more clarity on how you could potentially release them. Here are some reflective questions that can help you:
- Who am I struggling to forgive? Why? What can I do feel more at peace?
- What is something I have not forgiven myself for? Am I letting this impact my future?
- What are some beliefs I have, that might block me from forgiving myself and/or others? Where did I get them from?
Journaling is so powerful because it has the ability to show you behaviours of yourself or patterns, which you might otherwise not recognise. When living your life, day to day, without reflecting on it, you function more like a robot. Instead, when you take time to reflect on your thoughts and actions, you learn to understand yourself. Journaling makes this even more evident than simply reflecting on your day in your thoughts.
2. Energetic Release
If you have are already managed to find a certain amount of balance within you, forgiving others and/or yourself might be something that comes easier to you. That is when you can start working on the level of the heart and energy. Listen to the following meditation, if you have something or someone in mind that you are still wanting to forgive:
You can also always refer to the techniques mentioned in the #2 wild night post to release and let go emotions, feelings, energies or thoughts that don’t serve you any longer.
I wish you a wonderful third wild night, beautiful being, and hope that these insights help you to forgive, without forgetting. I say that not with the intent of holding a grudge, but because every hardship you go through, is a lesson worth learning and remembering 🤍